It is dangerous to fall in love in the early age. There is a risk of fearing being belong to someone for forever; and this would restrict an individual freedom; he or she might have to relinquish his or her life goal. Of course, this also has to do with an individual whether he or she could manage a way to achieve his or her life goal while having settle down with a life partner.
It is the same as being a life of artistry, embracing the concept of not totally belong. The idea of belonging is a sense of comfort, living with hegemonic culture to fit in the propaganda. This is comfortable, not challenging the cultural discourse, simply not to think too much. Even though I can feel there is a comfortableness wanting to belong, my brain still could not buy this kind of shit. This is because there are so many intellectual and cultural colors appearing on my not perceiving the one way of thinking. The psychologies would diagnose this as cultural homeless symptom.
This is the same thing as some of readers or academics saying their favorite authors. It is an intellectual trap. Falling in love with an author’s works, is getting brainwashed by the propaganda. When you fall in love, you would invest lots of energy trying to defend the relationship that you have invested. The eagerness wanting to defend that value, indicating the emotional values, not with the straight logical reasons. It is great to see Fyodor Dostoevsky, Leo Tolstoy, Jane Austen, George Orwell, and the other famous writers. Yes, they have contributed the greatness for our human race.
But, we should not continue to get haunted by the past term. It is important to steal their works like an artist. Then, looking forward to write something that comes from your singularity.
Seeing white people get along well with each other.
Seeing black people get along well with each other.
Seeing Asian people do not get along well each other.
I ask myself why Asian people do not like each other. I remember I was 21. I was at the in the band in the party house. Playing in the band, boosted my social networks. The Japanese students visited in our party house. Of course, it was awesome that the girls would cook some food for us while introducing their culture. Then, I was packing my electronic piano, seeing a Japanese student chatting very friendly with my bandmate. My bandmate said hi to me. And then suddenly, the weird thing happened, that Japanese student was becoming upset. Maybe, because my yellow skin could get along with the white guy then stirring up the jealousy. This is a very strange thing; and the memory of this is still live on my mind.
The second thing happened, regarding on the question of why Asian people do not like each other. There is a company that I used to serve for providing the service becoming a mediator; and more than just a mediator that I was developing the business project. The boss did not know how to speak English. I was engaging in the business project with the clients. The clients are Indonesians. We were chatting very well, getting the project to almost completion. But the boss was not happy, because I was getting along with the clients very well. I thought maybe my dark skin that transcends my identity to become part of south East Asian- Pan Asian movement. That I could connect with this part of the world very well.
The third thing happened regarding on Asian people do not like each other. I was working on the project steady, reporting to my family for what I have been working on. Even though my results are not good, I could provide the strong statements connecting with the executive. My relatives were upset my behaviors. One of the relatives who I used to think I can be close with that he obtained a prestigious US degree. I thought, as long as I can provide a great intellectual insight then we can achieve a better successful consequence. In turn out, he would cut me off for every single opportunity. I have been doubting, why Asian family relative needs to hurt each other, in order to display the Asian culture of depressive ancient tale drama, that ancient princes need to kill each other in order to claim the Emperor seat.
Above these phenomenon I can think of , in theory, the Asian people do not like each other because…
The Asian society always has strong discipline for children that they need to be competitive, achieving materialistic success. The soul immerse more on materialism; and that the segregation of the oneself, more likely happy. Because collective human interaction is the part of human nature of instinct. Survival comes from the will of the community bonding on each other.
The past of colonial culture always imposed on the Asian people. British colonial imperialist culture had established the concept of indirect rule, establishing the voice of the minority who is more like them, ruling their community. This position became incasing competitive during the British empire. This culture gradually evolve to become western academic institutional admission. Asian children need to competitive to go to Harvard and Oxford, determining who is smart enough to go there. This culture is increasing toxic for children coming from Asian family, even though the strong discipline of the education can build a good foundation, it would erode the children human nature the right to be oneself. The constant pressure on the competition will eventually result in jealousy for the future generation, which more likely leading to an individual to commit radical act and bad mental health.
I advocate letting the kid to be oneself, is the right to be self-determination.
Cheeseburgeres 