Knowing what I want

Is it okay to be selfish?

I have found that, is difficult to say no. Especially, it is difficult for me to deny the people who I fond of.

For instance, the partner would ask me whether I have an interest in going to art exhibition, seeing Picasso’s artworks. Yes, it is desirable to see Picasso; however, I do not have a time. I can make up the time, skipping the things that I suppose to do. If I keep delaying the purpose; and then I might not be able to accomplish my goal. Furthermore, I agree with that relationship is built base on trust, at the same time, both parties need to have boundary. He or she shall not force the people to reveal all the personal privacy. Sometime, the partner would force me to reveal the my privacy, in order to check whether my mentality is not with her on the same page. I have to say no, because there are things suppose to be personal.

I want to get over it; therefore, I give it up. But, the act of crossing my personal boundary, is reducing my impression and affection to the partner. This is not a healthy relationship. Indeed, I do not feel the desire wanting to have sex.

Being able to get the thing I want. I need to say no to the things that are not useful for me. When the people try to ask me out for a dinner, I have to say no because I need to read. I always feel I do not have enough of time for reading and writing. When the people try to ask me to participate some businesses, I have to say no because I do not know what is my position and whether the project would remain as a good business for the next 20 years. A good business can always serve the demand very well, even though the economic would eventually go to the downturn. When the people ask me to join the easy money project, I have to say no because there is no such a thing is easy.

It is important to say no, as a means of getting the thing I want. Being able to say no, is not a selfish act, is an act of protecting my time. Time is a treasure.